Glossary: G for Gratitude
When saying thank you becomes an act of inner freedom.
The word “gratitude” comes from the Latin “gratus,” meaning “pleasant,” “precious,” or “worthy of being welcomed with joy.” The same root gave us grace and gratuity. At its core, to feel gratitude is to recognize that what is given to us has value — and that this value comes from somewhere beyond ourselves.
I. Untangling the confusion
Gratitude suffers from a persistent misunderstanding. It is too often reduced to a social nicety—a well-mannered thank you or a social obligation toward someone who has done us a favor. The word “thanks” comes from a different root. The French word “merci” derives from the Latin “merces,” meaning “wages” or “reward.” This etymology reveals our ordinary relationship with gratitude. We instinctively experience gratitude as a debt to be honored, a gesture of reciprocity within the great commerce of human relations. Yet, authentic gratitude is of an entirely different nature. It is not necessarily directed toward an identifiable person, nor does it settle any account. It is an inner state, a way of inhabiting the world by recognizing that life gives us infinitely more than we could ever demand from it. As Montaigne, one of the first to introduce the word into French in the 16th century, observed, it requires a lucidity of the heart: seeing what is without taking it for granted.
II. A quality that must be cultivated
Although gratitude may arise spontaneously within us, it does not take root without effort, especially in our societies saturated with stimulation where attention is constantly captured, dispersed, and exhausted. Like any worthy inner quality, gratitude is acquired through patiently reorienting one’s gaze. This effort begins with a simple decision: to observe the world differently and rediscover what we once knew naturally as children—to marvel at what seems insignificant, to hear the song of a bird, to sense the quality of light at a particular hour, and to receive an unexpected smile as a token of love from life itself. This retraining of attention is not an escape from the difficult reality of the world. On the contrary, it is a way to avoid being overwhelmed by it while keeping an awareness of the gifts bestowed upon us alive, especially in times of hardship. Indeed, for those who sincerely work on themselves, even difficult situations can become an occasion for gratitude. They confront us with our limits, reveal our hidden resources, and help us grow in ways that ease alone would keep us asleep.
III. What the traditions tell us
The great spiritual traditions agree on this point: gratitude is not just another pleasant feeling — it is an essential attitude toward existence, inseparable from spiritual life itself. In Judaism, gratitude lies at the heart of daily prayer. The blessings, or berakhot, that believers are invited to recite a hundred times a day are moments of conscious gratitude for the gifts of creation, from the greatest to the most infinitesimal. In Christianity, the Eucharist—whose name derives from the Greek eucharistia, meaning “beautiful grace” or “beautiful thanks”—places gratitude at the center of the act of faith. Giving thanks is not a secondary gesture; it is the primary spiritual act. In Islam, the concept of shukr, thankfulness toward God, is one of the cardinal virtues. The Quran promises, “If you are grateful, I will surely increase My favors upon you” (14:7), recalling an essential aspect of gratitude: gratitude does not deplete what it receives; it amplifies it. In Buddhism, gratitude naturally flows from mindfulness. Perceiving the interdependence of all beings means recognizing that nothing we are was built alone and that this debt to life can only be repaid through loving attention to our surroundings. In Hinduism, the Bhagavad Gita teaches that those who receive the gifts of creation without offering anything in return live like thieves. Thus, gratitude is a sacred duty, not a sentimental option. The same profound intuition is found everywhere: gratitude is the gesture by which human beings step out of the illusion of self-sufficiency.
IV. A countercultural virtue in an age of lack
Our era has a paradoxical relationship with gratitude. It is spoken of at length—the word has colonized social media, personal development journals, and wellness applications—yet its genuine practice is becoming more difficult. Authentic gratitude requires satisfaction with what one has, if only momentarily. However, the entire architecture of our economy rests upon permanent dissatisfaction: wanting more, possessing more, and being more visible. In this context, to reclaim gratitude is a countercultural choice, almost radical. It means measuring the richness of one’s life not by what it lacks but by what it already contains that is precious. Lao Tzu sensed this in the Tao Te Ching: “There is no greater misfortune than never knowing contentment” (Ch. 46). When authentic gratitude truly takes hold, it does not close in on itself; it compels in the strongest sense of the word. It urges us to share this state of awakening and help those around us open to the beauty of life in turn. After all, one cannot remain grateful long without wishing to contribute to the circulation of what has been given.
In this sense, gratitude naturally extends humility, the first entry in this Abécédaire. Humility clears the inner space of self-sufficiency, and gratitude fills it with a gentle, steady light. Together, they form the foundation of any authentic spiritual life: open hands and a heart that knows how to say thank you.
Jérôme Nathanaël
✍️ And you ?
This entry in the Glossary also invites you to contribute to the upcoming Dialogues article devoted to your contributions.
Please share your experience of gratitude in a few sincere lines or short paragraphs, no more than one page.
Describe a moment, circumstance, or encounter in which gratitude moved through you—not as an obligation, but as a sudden, luminous, or quiet certainty. Alternatively, you may describe what makes it difficult for you to feel gratitude and how you navigate that difficulty.
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With all my heart,
Jérôme Nathanaël
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